Power and Structure

  • Posted on: 12 November 2013
  • By: Burt

Here's what I've found during this past calendar year.

This perspective starts with a reframing of masculine and feminine energies, into Power at the base of everything, with Structure being in service to Power to make/manifest anything. This helps me to remove the confusion of ego relative to gender ("what makes a male human masculine" and vice versa).

Perhaps one day...

  • Posted on: 15 October 2013
  • By: Burt
Perhaps one day, I'll have a singular product or service to sell you. Maybe it'll come from years of experience, a perfect "one-size-fits-all" kind of thing, that will definitively answer questions forever, or wipe huge swaths of muck and confusion with a single swipe.

Managing my personal energy levels

  • Posted on: 16 August 2013
  • By: Burt

Will I see you tomorrow?

There is no greater indicator of future behavior than the answer to this question.

Fly-by, drive-by, anonymous, see-you-sucker interactions are easy to start, easy to be disappointed by, hard to count on when it comes to civility or a career.

We work to create the alternative. Masks off, snarkiness set aside, committed to long haul. That's the connection that the connection economy is built on.

-- Seth Godin

Living Orgasmically

  • Posted on: 6 May 2013
  • By: Burt

An amazing woman wrote this in a private Facebook forum, but she gave me permission to reprint it. Don't let the language sway you... this is a letter brimming with personal power and freedom. She takes full responsibility for her experiences and perceptions, and is crystal clear in her communication of what she wants, and what is distracting to that desire.

How quickly can I learn to NOT take things personally?

  • Posted on: 2 March 2013
  • By: Burt

It can take an instant, if you're willing; it took me a couple years because I wasn't. When I finally became willing, things shifted very quickly.

For me, it had everything to do with the two-sided coin of: 1) self acceptance, and 2) unknowingly needing something from someone else, that being "acceptance". When I came to understand that it was my job to accept myself, the opinions of others just didn't matter.

A Stroke of Clarity on "Being Vulnerable"

  • Posted on: 20 February 2013
  • By: Burt

What I've found is this, that being vulnerable is one thing in itself, with it's own rewards. That's separate from an assumption that seems to be made, which is that if I'm vulnerable with someone, that they _should_ be selfless and tend to my vulnerability; that shuts down the possibility that the other person might have their own reaction to the vulnerability, they might not be available as they're in their own experience of themselves.

Maintaining responsibility for the vulnerability seems to be the thing that's so slippery here.

Gifts of Recovery: Beatrice's Story

  • Posted on: 26 January 2013
  • By: Burt


  1. Causing great surprise or wonder; astonishing.
  2. Startlingly impressive.


I've known Beatrice (not her real name) for going on five years, and she's become on of my very best friends; she's one of the most honest, one of the sexiest (more on that later), and one of the most sober, in all senses of the word.

Oddly enough, I'd never heard her story before; where she came from, and how she got into the rooms of recovery.

"Research Findings" from my Orgasmic Meditation course, Day One

  • Posted on: 6 January 2013
  • By: Burt

Spur of the moment on Friday, because of a presentation I attended, I chose to purchase and attend a course this weekend; totally changed my plans.

Turns out, this training is totally changing my life.

Yeah, it really is that big a shift.

Those of you that know me well know how important discrimination is to me. You know how conservative I tend to be with regards to sexuality. You also know how seriously I take boundaries and healthy, functional behavior.

I'm a newbie, yet here's the feedback that was given to the group from my third OM: