Robert Krulwich offers two perspectives on life, one where we are totally improbable, and the other where we are absolutely inevitable. He includes a fun infographic (I love infographics!) that might help make this topics manageable to think about.
I subscribe to the first of the two theories in this piece. Extending that premise, I find that successful couples are astounding, amazing demonstrations of cooperation, love, and respect.
Regardless, the determination of how you “traverse this bardo” — how you engage in this life, with yourself and with others, is based on your choices. Of course, we can’t control other people, places, or things, but we can always choose our own actions.
Just tossing this out there for those that feel compelled to take someone for granted… including yourself.